Unlocking the Heart

Have you ever wondered why some Christians go around and around and never seem to grow? Have you tried to help but can’t seem to turn the key which will unlock their destiny? If so, this book is for you! Unlocking the Heart teaches you how to develop the kinds of relationships that will change the course of people’s lives. It will teach you the skills of a master pastor: the ways to draw out, understand, and ultimately change the contents of the heart of those in your care. As you learn the skills in this book, you will find the effectiveness of your ministry dramatically increase, as you discover the lost art of pastoral care and the keys to Unlocking the Heart!



Can God Really Meet Your Emotional Needs?

When I was in college under the campus ministry, all answers came back to, “God is the answer.” If you felt lonely and depressed, God was the answer. If you were lonely and needed more friends, God was the answer.  If you thought a girl was cute and wished you had a girlfriend, God was the answer.  The notion was…

May 23, 20206 min read

Approaches to Christian Counseling

The basic task of pastoring people is helping them to grow. A major component of this then is counseling. And both counseling and pastoring are tied closely to your view of sanctification, and your view of the human person. There are several major schools of thought within the church today that provide an approach to helping people to grow: “Christian…

May 22, 20208 min read

Christian Codependency

A codependent relationship is one where the love flow is when the bond is based on one person providing assistance and the other person receiving assistance.  In the world, this pairing is usually found between someone who is has low self-esteem and tolerates selfish behavior from the other person.  In Christian settings, however, a benevolent kind of codependency can also…

October 11, 201610 min read

How to Avoid Pastoral Burnout

If you are any good at pastoring, you will quickly have more people to help than you have time to help them with. This can easily lead to burnout, where you are swamped pouring effort into your flock and seeing very little return. So the question becomes who do you help, and when? The simple Biblical answer is that you…

October 11, 20137 min read

Helping Others to Develop Emotionally

When you are a little baby and you cry, your mom might say to you, “Oh, are you sad?”, or when you laugh she might say, “Oh, you’re so happy!”  This is part of a healthy upbringing.  Your parents and others who love you are giving you words for your emotions, helping you to process and ultimately to master them. …

October 8, 20136 min read

The Pastor’s Heart

What do you think of when you think of a “pastor”? The leader of a church? A preacher? Someone with a friendly personality? A pastor may be all of those things, but fundamentally, Biblically speaking, the essence of a pastor is something else: a shepherd. This shepherd keeps watch, over a flock, and if you are part of that flock,…

September 27, 20135 min read